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  • 1I seriously regret having a baby, is that normal?

    I haven't had a good sleep in 6 months, if he isn't waking me up crying I'm waking up because he's too quite which makes me think somethings wrong with him.

  • 2Over a year since our baby was born and my wife is still totally uninterested in sex. Is that normal?

    My wife gave birth to our first child and only about 15 months. Our baby is healthy and well , and my wife is physically healthy . But your sex since before the baby was born has been reduced to zero . We both work , and both are busy . And I know that motherhood has meant a much higher burden to my wife . But she always comes home and tells me that, compared with other women She Talks To, who is grateful for the amount of aid they give to the baby and the house . We talked about the problem . It does not really fit the symptoms of postpartum depression . Since the birth of our baby , I've had a vasectomy , so no fear of another pregnancy ( we both agreed we do not want ) . She recognizes that her sex drive is gone , and she feels bad about the effect it has on our relationship . But she does not want to force something that does not really feel inside, and I do not want that . What are the possible medical or psychological causes of this problem ?

  • 3What do you do if you are married and had a baby and you think you realize you then don't want the baby?

    My husband and I are both thirty, educated professional, financially secure and we just had a baby three months ago. I was very surprised to find out I was pregnant, we tried once on a whim. I had a tough pregnancy and delivery, and thought I was excited, if a little nervous. I had thoughts of wishing we had waited a little more, but after our daughter was born I thougth those were in the past. Everyone is ecstatic about her, she is the grandbaby on either side, but our families live a couple hours away so they can't help tons. She is a great baby, beautiful and sleeps through the night and a great personality. My husband adores her. I thought I did too. I mean, I know I love her. But this past weekend my parents volunteered to keep her overnight Saturday. When we went to get her Sunday she was sick and she can't go to daycare like that, so my mom who stays home said they could keep her until she was better. We thought she would be back by Monday night. However, she is still just too sick to go to daycare (stomach flu). She's been to the doctor and it's nothing serious. My husband keeps talking about how much he misses her. And I do to, but more than that I am realizing how nice it is to go out to dinner without her, sleep in a little later since I don't have to get her ready for daycare, or pick her up after work, etc. It's not that my husband doesn't help out. In fact, sometimes he seems to do more than I do. And it's not that she is a hard baby...she's not colicky, doesn't cry for no reason, she sleeps from eight at night until seven the next morning and we get compliments on her all the time. She is a dream baby, so why is my feeling one of freedom and relief, and not of sharp misery that she is gone? I can't see in our position saying we made a mistake, someone adopt her. My husband adores her. It would kill him. But I have watched TV shows in the past where the mom sobs about giving up her child to someone and I cried to thinking how I could never do that. But today I realized, I think I could. If I knew she was somewhere great, safe and well-cared for, I think it would be a relief. Has anyone ever felt like this? Or am I a horrible mother?

  • 4Will I regret attending a Cal State rather than a UC...?

    I got accepted to UCLA and UC Berkeley to study psychology . But I have no intention of becoming a psychologist and the previous tuition increases really intimidated me . Many have reported that the Degree in Psychology, both of the top public universities is not going to do much . I always wanted to live the college life, but does not seem financially possible , without going into debt. I talked to teachers , counselors , students and all declared that it does not matter what you are going to school , but what you do experience . For Cal State , I was accepted to Cal State LA and SDSU for their nursing programs . This is something I really wanted to do . Most UC not offer nursing programs and UCLA was almost impossible to get. I visited San Diego State , but the crowd really party atmosphere did not attract me at all. However, it is a beautiful city . Therefore, I decided to attend Cal State LA , which is the opposite of San Diego State . It seems quite running , insufficient funding , and other things . It was the most affordable and I will travel . People told me to join a group of clubs , organizations , and such. I feel something for all my other friends are attending top flight UC or private schools that have the type of college environment feel. If I were not a great Nursing , will most likely attend the school level through loans or work . But no, that many of California 's public universities offer the program .

  • 5De you regret graduating college early?

    I am currently a sophomore in college , and I'm thinking about finishing my degree in psychology in college next semester . I am only 4 classes to complete a double major management study , but I think it may just give up that option , travel abroad next spring semester , and go to law school early. Do any of you graduated college a year ago and now regrets it ?

  • 6Does anyone regret spending so much money on college?

    Did you get a job after wards that justifies the expense ? You finished completely? Was it worth it all around or are you working with other entry-level professionals ? I say that because I never finished college. It took me about two and half years . I continued to change their minds between semesters as watned to do , and now I have a lot of student loans to pay . I take responsibility for that, but I felt very pressured by my family to go to college right away . I thought I knew what watned to do , but I switched careers about 3 times and never end ! Now , at 24 Finally I have a great job and most of my coworkers have degreese degree and are working at teh same thing. probably worse because they have bills even more than me, but it seems that all the jobs I've been working on since high school , I've been working with people with degrees and are in the same boat as I am . So I wonder if this idea whole school can turn against you ? He did it for me. I guess if you choose the right program that will do well , but many of the people I work with are not. Were higher in psychology , criminal justice , sociology , and some nursing students found that hated taht work once you really had to. Just wondering what everyone's experience is ? felt the pressure to go to college or you wait for the right time ?

  • 7How to deal with mothers depression, how to get over regret, am i to blame?

    My mother is depressed, often ill, she has been depressed for the past 10 years since my father died, however, the disease has only been evident for the last year or so. I have older brothers, but left home when my father died, because they are old, but I lived with my mother since my teens until 19. at this time, my mother turned to alcohol, I found this difficult to treat and care I guess it was the desire, as a result, I was angry with my mother and sometimes (wether she was drunk or not as it would go from "normal" to regularly depressed) I feel so angry with her and wanting to leave her and pushed her to be what I would describe as evil and abusive unsensitive and gently. Now I left home for college, I've been away for four years, but now has worsened. When I get home I find it hard to see her in this state, but she tries to make me buy things and pay my debts, but I ask you not to, but she is offended if I do not accept. Now I feel quite guilty about my behavior in the past (although I still very angry with her nto be sick as she can sometimes be very reluctant to ask for help, resulting in me yelling at it) the problem is that I can understand how you feel, as I also suffer from depression of the same symptoms, but gets angry with her and tell her to solve even though I know from experience that it is hard (and I'm looking for help seeked advice and medical throgh). i regret so bad the way it's been treated as not helpful and does not help your depression, I just do not know what it feels like and how to deal with what I did, he did not deserve what he have passed, and even though my brothers know the problem they are trying to help, but they have their own families and I think both should stop hole in the past and move on with life, but that's not the problem, I and my two brothers who are now in their 30th (I'm in my early 20's) have bothered with my mother instead of listening to what she has to say, do not really know what to do because she does everthing annoyed me, even if is she speaking through a television program, i attack, although I do the same and I would get angry if my freinds scolded me and told me to shut up for doing the same?

  • 8Does anyone NOT regret going into major debt to attend their dream college?

    I'm trying to get a superior some perspective on college debt will impact on my life . I've been looking online , and all I can find are people who repent of taking such a large number of loans to go to their favorite school ( although it seems that many of them were psychology / sociology / humanities major , and I 'm majoring in civil engineering ) . Do you regret your college debt ? Why or why not ?

  • 9I just had a breast augmentation done, and i regret going too small. is there any hope left for me?

    i just had a breast augmentation procedure three weeks ago... i was really worried about going too large. i was a small 32A. i told the doctor i wanted to be a small C. he recomended that i go 350cc's. i took a jump and went to 360cc's under the muscle... now that its all over and done with, im absolutely DEPRESSED about my breast size. i asked the doctor to be a C and im barely a full B.... i feel really depressed about not going larger... by the looks of my size i think i should have gone as far as 420cc's.... im so sad about the outcome that i feel like having another surgery to make them the size i wanted them to be.... right now i dont have the money to get them re-done so im feeling like i should drop 10 pounds... (im currently 120) ..... im thinking if i drop 10 pounds, then my breast will look alot more fuller and larger with a smaller frame.... i was just hoping if there were more options out there for me besides loosing weight or going to have another procedure done....

  • 10Did anyone regret their Master's degree in counselling psychology? Or dislike the program they took?

    Does anyone regret his masters in psychology ? Or do not like the program they take?

  • 11Did anyone regret their Master's degree in counselling psychology? Or dislike the program they took?

  • 12Did anyone regret their Master's degree in counselling psychology? Or dislike the program they took?

    Does anyone regret his masters in psychology ? Or do not like the program they take?