I've had occasional depression all my life, due to low self-esteem. I could deal with it very well until about two months ago when it suddenly became intolerable. In May, I left an emotionally abusive relationship that left me mentally damaged, but had friends who would make sure it was okay and would offer (I do) go out with them often.
Then, two months ago I had a couple of bad days, when my two friends were arguing. They were and we were fine, but I think something happened to scare me because I started getting depressed again. I really only have three people I consider close friends, and two of them have lately been busy or have something to do.
That almost never calls or texts, and rarely makes the offer to hang out with him I forget, fills, or simply does not appear. One is simply too busy with school, and I do not accept blame when it gets bad enough to the point where you ask for help and no one seems to notice. That leaves the last person to deal with my depression that is not fair to either of us.
I'm not the type of person to drag everyone through my bad days. In fact, rarely will I tell someone I'm having one unless I think they could help and that's my last option. However, when I get seriously depressed I think things are much worse than they are, as I believe my friend is leaving me out later than usual because he actually cares.
About two weeks ago I started having really bad anxiety, to the point where I have random break downs. I've been paying attention and have noticed a few things that either signal an attack or something you use to feed him (unintentionally). Most of them have to do with the fear of being alone again like I was in my last relationship. As I sniff snuff and remember how I used to play with my friend who smokes a pipe, or I'll be on facebook and notice (again) that the two have been out of range, or has gone.
I've done a lot of research books myself, so I'm looking for more serious answers like you've been through something similar or is a real doctor and know what you're talking about. Thanks in advance.
I am willing to try counseling or therapy if that's what it takes. Only I have no idea where to turn or how. I really do not want to see a prescription because you do not believe in just mask the symptoms. Maybe for a little while if you really have to, but I was really doing good improvements in my self until all this happened. I would also minimize the impact and involvement of my parents simply because we do not want to have to worry. I have a nineteen true.
Go out with your best friends and do something really fun ... I mean really plan something , save money and do something really good ... Whitewater rafting , skydiving , something I'll never forget ... Something to remember that it was fun and exhilerating .
This does not cure anything , just give you an experience (hopefully ) great to look back and say, well , I've had a lot of fun in my life . So next time , do something even better . This is the best therapy there ..... Auto - Orientation , and motivation of your friends ... Make sure you choose your friends and hopefully you have a close friend that you can talk about these things directly instead of random answers through yahoo ... You need a true friend , a very good friend you can trust your life . If you do not have a person in your life that way , talk to a counselor or someone at the local university .
Hey , and like the other person said , maybe you do not need to be looking for any friend right now. Maybe you need a little time to think and time to relax . Maybe even the normal, everyday mundane tasks become irritating and just driving in a city can make anyone have a panic attack or in my case a freakout . It may take a day or two to himself , one day in the woods , listening to the birds sing. Go somewhere without the hum of cars or air conditioners . A quiet , calm setting aside the worries of the day and take five minutes to just relax and breathe .
The first thing you have to do is get the self-esteem , which will help him be more outgoing and sociable , so you can meet new people and find yourself new friends . if you seek self : try to find out what are the best cases , for example , sports, outdoor activity or a hobby like drawing , and join a local club or group of people who share the same interests . I try to smile every day , but sit down and do something , no matter what, every time , that way you'll start getting a suspension for his actions , and gain self-esteem .
PS Why do you lack self-esteem in the first place?