How do you keep up sobriety without going to AA? I have been sober six months now and currently live at a supported independent living center, a sober house. I am not dual diagnosed, they opened it up to people with just mental issues, but I do have a history of using alcohol at times to self medicate when I wasn't on the right medications. I do get triggers at times to drink, when I smell alcohol at a restaurant. It's only a slight feeling, a feeling like, 'oh that was nice, it used to relax me,' if that makes sense. I am committed to staying sober for life, but I have mixed issues about going to 12-step groups. Some people say they are necessary for sobriety, that since it is a disease it is impossible to stay sober without treatment in committing to a higher power. I believe however that there is choice involved with it, and don't believe that I am totally helpless to a trigger or a craving, that they can be overcome with the right coping tools. I don't hang out with people who abuse alcohol anymore and who have depression, I keep my boundaries clear. Honestly while there were times where I abused alcohol, I mostly did it to 'fit in' instead of my own cravings. When I did attend AA I didn't relate to anyone there, and literally felt like I was lying when I said that I was an alcoholic...when they asked if I obsessed about it or had cravings for it I didn't, and when they shared stories about going to rehabs and running away from them, and drinking bottles to themselves, I thought woah... I can't relate. Even though I know it's not always about how much you drink it's the consequences, but I feel that it is different. Anyway I'm just influenced by other people's opinions, my therapist thinks that I am not dual diagnosed and don't need AA--but the case manager here thinks I could benefit from it. I however feel like I would benefit more from Al-Anon because I have been more of an 'enabler' in my past, instead of the one abusing it more I've tried to save people and been co-dependent on people who were abusing it. To sum up my drinking history, I used to drink a glass or two of wine a night, almost every night in order to help me sleep (while I was depressed at my last job). I thought it calmed me down but I think it interefereed with my medication. I quit it cold turkey when I started to feel really depressed and had an episode.. then when I told a dual recovery counselor about it they basically diagnosed me as an alcoholic. When I had my manic episodes the most I drank, usually, was about 4 drinks a night.. so if you look at it by how much I drink it wasn't considered to be all that much, but still, I just don't want to pick up a drink ever again and worry when I hear that I could be an addict that I might just do that. I don't think I'd ever drink myself into oblivion, though. I just think that I wasn't on the right medications and that's why I was self-medicating, but I wanted to know if this seems like I should give AA another shot.
I took my daughter to a mental center, because I discovered that she had been drinking for about two years while at school or some other way she will not speak about it. Anyways we saw a psychologist and she said that she suffered from exteme anxienty and depression. At the end of the conversation, she pointed out to my daughter in front of me that she should ideally stop drinking altogether, however to at least try it little by little. I was shocked and felt powerless. Yet she did not recommend AA meetings which I asked her for? Please if there is anybody who has expertise on this matter, i would appreciate your input. I am considering to seek for other options already but need to know where I stand. Thank you.
im depressed and need rehab but no one else thinks so what will it take for them to see it
im a fourteen year old girl and i just want to go somewhere and get help. i think im depressed. My mom yells at me all the time about how i dont do my work and dont do my homework. all my teachers say that im not focused in class, its cause i have ADD but my mom wont get me medicine. But yeah she yells at me and says "**** you" and "shut up" and sometimes pushes me and drags me to my room. Im worried that im going to commit suicide or shes going to hurt herself cause of me. We cant afford boarding school. Where can i go? Could i go to rehab?
I can't stand this anymore. My depression, bipolar, social anxiety. Everything. My therapists aren't really helping. These medications I'm on don't do anything. I self harm and I've recently been not eating because I'm already overweight and I really want to lose weight. Can you go to rehab for depression, bipolar, social anxiety/anti-social personality disorder and self-harm?
i'm 17. some background from 7-9 i was molested by a neighbor. i never told anyone until my therapist at age 17. my dads a coke addict and alcoholic. in and out of rehab untill i was 13 he got cleaned up for 6 months then relapsed and wound up killing somone. now he's serving 17-20 years. at 13 became suicidal, i isolated myself, hated myself, lost all faith and what not. 15 started drinking, smoking, doing alot of pills, sleeping with whoever. finally when i was almost 17 i overdosed and came close to killing myself. i decided i wanted help. i cleaned up, started therapy and opened up. i havent sought out drugs since February. i also got out of the sex only "relationship" i'd been in. im on celexa now, and it helps. but things still get bad and i find myself going back to old habits, especially in relationship i try for. i feel really worthless. and a lot of times i only dont take my life because i know my mom would be lost without me. i feel terribly guilty for all the bad i do and have done. i feel dirty most of the time. i just wanna know if anyone has advice?
I have long-term anxiety and depression and are currently in the process of a diagnosis for a suspected personality disorder (Borderline and Avoidant) I'm not really suicidal, I get fleeting thoughts but wouldn't act on them and have no plans to harm myself. I just feel like I've stopped functioning lately - I'm struggling to look after myself and my home, I don't feel asthough my mind and body are connected (if this makes sense), I don't want to go out, my insides just feel like they're shaking and I've permanently feel emotionally hurt :/ Like.. That feeling you get in your stomach when you find out someone's died or cheated on you - my stomach feels like that all the time, especially when I remember something, even if it's not a painful memory. I called NHS Direct last night and they said that maybe I should consider going into some sort of Rehab/mental health hospital but I'm terrified of the prospect of doing so - what could I expect from going to somewhere like that? And would it even help my 'condition'? I'm at the end of my tether and don't know what to do.
My brother was depressed and suicidal, and he went to rehab center for a few months. When he came back he seems to have recovered from his depression and mood swings except now he paces around talking to himself and laughing all day long. We suspect he has schizophrenia and ever since he stopped taking his medication the symptoms seems to have gotten worse. We have asked doctors and psychology experts what to do about it and they say that since he is not a danger to himself or anyone else we can't do anything about it except convince him to go to a doctor which he refuses to do and he is over 18 so we can't make him go. Nobody seems to want to help anymore and they don't really care. My family is not sure what to do anymore he really needs help and is getting worse and worse every day. What should we do to help him? Please give me some advice
I've read some horror stories about getting into serious relationships with people who're bipolar / manically depressed...but in many of said stories the two people involved had little to nothing in common, and were also a lot older, like in their 30's. I'm 17. I've been dating this kid for like a month, and I know this will make you roll your eyes, but i really do love him. we've got a lot in common and he seems to acctually care about me, and respect me and stuff, and he dosen't treat me like crap, unlike every other boy i've ever been involved with. Anyway, we had gone on some dates and before we were even dating, he said he loved me. At the time I was in teenage girl fantasy mindset and thought this is simply darling, but now i know that wasn't the case. he had vaguely told me about his issues but only now do i know forsure, after looking up what exactly the medication i see in his room is prescribed for. anyway, his intense infatuation was totally the begining of an 'episode'. like, not even a week after we started dating and he told me he loved me, was in love with me, and started talking about forever and always and whatnot did he get unbearably sad, like, brink of suicide sad, stopped eating, and said that i was pretty much the only thing keeping him alive...which was a hell of alot of weight on my shoulders after just three days of being in my first relationship that was more than just hooking up. Since then there've been some normal, neutral times (when he actualy takes his medication), some high-highs (sometimes he makes me feel like an absolute queen, and other times it's borderline creepy how much he goes on about loving me), and some low lows (the suicide threats, the neediness, the clingyness, the control freak nature, the screaming and yelling at me, the absense of trust in me). For some reason though, I sitll love him. A whole lot. Like, I'm willing to stick this hard stuff out with him, 'cause he's really a great guy, and he can't help being semi sort of crazy. He's definatley brought me down withhim before, brought me to tears and whatnot, but my number one intent is always to help get him back up, despite the hurt he has nooo idea that he's causing to me. Any advice on how to deal, coping tactics, that'd be muuuch appreciated. I'm nice as i possibly can be to him, like I've figured out 'the right things to say', but processing and dealing with all of the drama is proving to be a little difficult as we grow closer and more episodes of mania/ depression occur. yeah.
My boyfriend suffers from previous drug addiction, depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, and sleeping disorder, he hates people (social), he hates life, and constantly feels down and suicidal. He is thinking of committing himself to a place for mental patients, or rehabs. Im very supportive and want to help him but feel slightly scared what this could mean for us (my images of a mental hospital is him in a straight jacket taking meds every hour).. what are they like there and how effective is treatment?
Lately for the past week or two I have been probably the most depressed I have ever been in my life. I am 18 and I am going through A LOT of stuff with my boyfriend of 2+ years. I'm not sure how to deal with it but I really don't know how to overcome this depression and think of the positive cause I get so overwhelmed with the negative. I feel when I'm happy it's only temporary and I know it wont last. I don't want to see a psych I have when I was younger while my parents were going through a divorce and my mom going through rehab and such. I'm so use to holding all my feelings bottled up but the past couple weeks I have been exploding every now and then. Someone have any advice, please I'm desperate to get this done with.
My Mom has had clinical depression since she was 18. She's 46 now, and goes into the hospital regularly to get her medication changed. She always tells me her depression has nothing to do with me. I, in fact, help her cope with her depression. She said she wouldn't know what to do without me. I'm staying at my Grandparents because my Mom is in the hospital -- she's getting out on Monday. Tomorrow, it will be 8 weeks since she entered. I think I might have depression. My older brother, 15, is a heroin addict. He entered a 4-month rehab today, and he admitted how he felt and why he resorted to drugs and all that. I truly think he will get clean this time, so I'm feeling a bit better. Anyway, like I said, I'm staying at my Grandparents. I got up at about 3 in the morning to use the wash room. My hands were sticky -- not sure why -- so I opened the cupboard to get a new thing of soap. I was half asleep so I forgot to close it, and just walked out. In the morning I got up and my grandma was yelling at me for leaving the bathroom a mess. The only thing I did was not close the cupboard! Then she said my room is a mess, which it kind of is -- I don't have drawers at my Grandparents because I'm in the guest room, so I just put them in a basket and push the stuff in the corner. My Grandma said it's a mess and she doesn't know how my mom lives with me. I got really upset and went downstairs and started to cry. Then she came up to me and said, "Oh, stop crying. We don't need any more water in this world! It's already pouring rain!" I started crying more and my Grandpa just told her to leave me alone. I'm starting to believe I'm causing my Mom's depression. What do I do?
Been to prison 3 times. All my charges boil down to my drug addiction.I believe I have depression, but ive never been motivated enough to see a doctor. Im not bipolar cause I dont have ups and downs. Only downs. Im like Eeyore! I want to know if there is such a pill thats for depression that has very high levels of methamphetamine in it. I need these pills or else i go to prison for four years! Not fair. I need this boost daily!! Legal or not. What should I do?
Hi everyone, so if you have seen any of my other questions - you will know that I'm a fourteen (almost 15) year old girl struggling with depression, an adjustment disorder and self harm. I am trying to convince my mother to let me go to this place, its about a days drive away, but takes people with similar issues to myself and has an extremely high success rate with recovery. I want to get better, I really do. I have told my mum I self harm, but she doesnt know how or how often (I cut, and its almost every night) it has become an addiction, its always somewhere in my mind. I want this help, but she is weary about sending me to a "rehab", maybe she doesnt think its serious enough. Things ARE getting worse, sometimes cutting isnt enough. What can I say to my mum to help convince her?
My wife has been prescribed Xanax for 12 years to alleviate the symptoms for panic/anxiety disorder. She has been admitted to the hospital in the past as dosages were increased to the point of lethargy, confusion, coordination difficulties and other injurious side effects. At the hospital she suffered a terrifying crash that ultimately resulted with medical advice to continue the drugs. The use of the herb St. Johns’s Wort, Sam-e, vitamin C, B-complex, Omega3, Gingko, CoQ10 and other supplements have helped with her efforts to get off Paxil and cut her dose of Xanax to a minimum over time. She has improved her health and is determined to cope with life without the drug that has caused more harm than good. There are clinics for drug abuse but they are not geared for a true unwanted medical dependency. If anyone reading this has a good resource online or in the Lakeland/Tampa Bay area please post it.
alcohol seems to cause me a problem every time i drink it, but why the hell do i keep doing it even though it has brought no good? its almost funny!
im 14 and a girl. My dad was an alcoholic a few months ago but he has been into rehab and is better now. A few months ago things got really bad, i attempted to kill my self and self harmed, but now hes back i should be happy and everything about it but im not, i just want to be alone and dont want to interact with him, i dont sleep at night. at school i will hurt my friends physicly like punch them or something, sometimes because i am over excited and sometimes because anger. i am overweight and people make fun of me. and days like today, i went to my friends and had a really good day and come home and cry for hours, i dont know whats wrong with me can someone please help? i also smoke.
My boyfriend is suffering major depression and has been since he was 11. He has night terrors every night, he cuts himself, and his dad beat up his mum when he was six right in front of him. I've taken him to a councilor, therapist, his parents. Ect. He's not recovering..I don't know what to do to help him. I support him everyday, but it just gets worse. He's 18. He says he can't get the images of his dad beating his mum up out of his head and so I took him to rehab several times and he's still not recovering. He told me he wanted to kill himself and that he was sorry for everything..he never did anything wrong for all I know. I've known him since he was 9. Please help me.. I can't stand to see him this way..NO WEBSITE LINKS!! They never help!
This realisation has helped to recover from my addictive patterns and behaviours and to understand why I still have days/ moments which are very very dark and sad.
I like to drink, I don't think I have a problem but sometimes, I think I do. I am very shakey at times, nervous, anxious, and just really want a shot of vodka or jack to get me through the day. I have only been drinking pretty bad for the past 2 months. Its affecting my life, when I'm not drinking I get mad at one little small thing when its really nothing. I need to talk to someone, I do. I just don't know how to break it out. I feel like I should tell my sister first then ease on to my parents. Good idea? Also before all this, before I started drinking. I had different mood swings, like being bipolar. Its gotten worse since I've been drinking. Rehab the answer? Like a rehab where I cant check myslef out of? Because I will.